Geometry and Marriage – a theory

What does…

…geometry and marriage have to do with each other?

I know the nerds will love this… the rest of you will just have to agree.

What is the easiest way to solve a complex geometric problem?
I’ll answer it for you – find the right angle.

For those of you who had issues with Geometry, a right angle is one where the inside angle measures exactly 90 degrees.  Why is this cool?  This means that one side of the angle has a perfectly perpendicular view to the world than the other side.  This is also the basis for all design and complex decision making.  If you cannot see all sides of a problem, how can you solve it with the best accuracy?


(kŏm’plə-měn’tə-rē, -trē)


  1. Forming or serving as a complement; completing.
  2. Supplying mutual needs or offsetting mutual lacks. (To provide what the partner lacks and lack what the partner provides.
  3. Genetics Of or relating to a group of genes that act in concert to produce a specific phenotype.
  4. Biochemistry Of or relating to the specific pairing of the purines and pyrimidines between strands of a DNA or an RNA molecule.

com’ple·men’ta·ri·ly (-tə-rə-lē, -trə-lē, -měn-târ’ə-lē) adv., com’ple·men’ta·ri·ness n.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition
Copyright © 2009 by Houghton Mifflin Company.
Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

So, what does this have to do with marriage?

Look at yourself.  Look at your wife.  What are your gifts?  What are her strengths?  After a bit of reflection, you can see where division of responsibility and labor have been meted out in your relationship based, more or less, on who does it better.

My wife handles the money.  I can trust her implicitly.  She also deals with 99% of the laundry and most of the cleaning chores inside the house.
I handle most of the regular yard maintenance, oil changes, brake jobs, and structural house maintenance.

Am I being sexist because I don’t do laundry?

If I was being sexist, I wouldn’t let her handle the money.
If I was being sexist, I wouldn’t cook half the meals.
If I was being sexist, I wouldn’t wash the dishes when the sink is full.
If I was being sexist, I wouldn’t let her run her own business.

My wife is an extraordinary woman.   There are things at which she is way better at than me.  I know this… and I submit myself to her expertise and talent in those areas.
There are things at which I do better than her.  So those are my responsibilities.

If you haven’t figured it out already, we are demonstrating the geometric properties of complementary angles in our marriage.  Alone, we do not complete the perfect 90deg angle.  Together, our strengths are complementary to the other.  She sees things a bit different than I do, allowing our marriage to have a more complete view of life, planning for the future, and dealing with family and friends.

Maybe you think it’s a stretch.  Fine.
But my wife gets it.  And that’s what I care about the most.

In my humble opinion, I recommend that you try to apply this principle to your marriage.
Letting your spouse handle all the finances because you really suck at it is not weak, it’s smart.
My spectacular credit rating is directly attributed to my wife’s integrity and diligence with our finances.
If she’s a horrible cook, but you’re good at it, does it make sense to eat burned, tasteless gruel because it’s “not my job?”

Be sure that you are wisely utilizing all the talents God has given you.  Squandering a talent your spouse has just because it’s not traditional is foolish and wasteful.

Give it a shot.
Let me know if it improves your life and marriage.

(C) Mo’ Media 2009.  All rights reserved.

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