After X number of years of marriage, are you operating in habit mode? Have you stopped to check to and see if you've really been doing what you need to or are you assuming everything's okay because it feels okay from your perspective?
Why is it that we as husbands find it easy to listen to a customer, yet quickly become impatient when our wives are talking? The quick answer is that we value our customers' money. But what does that say about how we value our wives? Ouch.